COUNSELOR'S CORNER: Christmas 2013

By Fred Cavaiani

Bringing gifts with open hearts

Buying gifts with generosity

Forgiving everyone and letting go

Holding nothing against anyone

Listening carefully without condemnation

Smiling with genuine warmth towards others

There is sacredness in everything and everyone

Returning to childhood wonder

New realization that Joy comes from Love

Patiently letting others open their gifts

Connecting hearts with compassion and concern

Giving to those less fortunate

Becoming quiet to listen to God speaking

Believing and looking for the kindness all around us

Knowing that God is always among us and with us

In my weakness something powerful happens - peace and love and joy

Letting go of my way and learning Your Way

Letting the castle of my ego become a humble stable of ego

Welcoming everyone to the table

Forgetting me and discovering you

Focusing on children with open hearts and minds

Paying attention to everyone and everything

Total attentiveness to those around us

Shutting off electronic devices and paying close attention to others

Gratitude for the kindness and generosity of others

Giving without expectations of affirmation

Jumping with joy with the children's excitement

Treasuring long lasting friendships

Embracing the love and beauty in each moment

Letting go of judgmental attitudes to bring peace to all men and women of good will


Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center, a consultant for the Detroit Medical Center, and Henry Ford Medical Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Southeastern Michigan. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: and his website is

Published: Tue, Dec 24, 2013