Counselor's Corner: Words for living in the present moment


Fred Cavaiani

Life is now. Everything is filled with the Divine. Peace results in not rushing to the next moment. Move slowly. Focus on what you see. God is present there.

This life is short. Life is filled with meaning in the present moment. There are no unimportant moments in life.

Pain and struggle are the doorway to joy and peace. The embrace of pain becomes the embrace of joy. The embrace of joy allows our unfinished pain to surface. Pain and joy are two sides of the same coin.

Tension disappears when I focus attentively on this present moment. When I allow myself to feel, I allow myself to heal.

I cannot control the past. I cannot control the future. But I can profoundly experience this present moment. It is where God is found. It is where God is experienced.

I do not need preachers. I need fellow travelers in life who share their journey with me.

Negative thinking blocks me from experiencing God. Criticizing others never brings me closer to God.

Stay in this moment and life becomes a walk with God and a walk in Peace.

Everything and everyone tell me something about God.

The more I share with others, the more my heart opens wide to Love and to God.

Mothers, Fathers Partners, Spouses and kind friends can teach us so much about God.

When I stay in my heart, I experience God.

Life is simply this moment.

Life is saying hello to new people and saying goodbye to those who have died. I must do both and feel the hellos and the goodbyes. All of this brings me close to God.

No one has to change for me to find peace. No one and nothing have to change for me to experience happiness. But I must change to realize this. I must depart from selfishness and embrace the presence of God in this present moment.

It is all right to allow other people to be miserable. It is not all right to inflict condemnation on other people.

I simply need to love and all will be well in my life.

When I take quiet time, I start believing in a loving and caring God in each moment of my life.

Typing this article becomes an experience of God.

Attentively listening to other people becomes an encounter with God.

Wisdom comes to me in my attentiveness to this present moment.

Every light reminds me of the Light of God.

Every hug becomes a reminder of how much God is embracing me.

Every act of kindness toward me brings God closer to me.

Every act of kindness by me toward someone else brings that person closer to having an experience of God. It also helps me to experience God.

I do not have to worry about the next moment.

The best preparation for the next moment is an awareness and embrace of this moment.

It is a gift to have been born. It is a privilege to be alive. It is a blessing to know that I will live forever.

Death is simply opening a door to another amazing, loving and peaceful journey. I do not have to look for this door or be afraid of this door. I simply need to live this moment with a loving heart and mind.

The more I fully live in this moment, the more life makes sense.

The Light and Love of God are always all around me.

When I totally focus on this moment, I will experience God.

We may not realize it, but we are all on the same journey.

God loves everyone at this very moment. I must do the same.

Love is!

Peace and inner freedom are within my reach in each moment of life.

The more I remain quiet with God, the more inspired I become to be loving toward others.

The more loving I am toward others, the more I am inspired to spend more quiet time with God.

We are all in the same boat going on the same journey.

I am simply sharing my journey with you in this present moment.

Have a glorious journey today, living in this present moment.

Again, in the words of Elizabeth Browning: Earth is filled with heaven and every common bush afire with God.


Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage counselor and psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center, a consultant for the Detroit Medical Center, and conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Southeast Michigan. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: and his website is

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