COUNSELOR'S CORNER: Christmas 2013

By Fred Cavaiani Bringing gifts with open hearts Buying gifts with generosity Forgiving everyone and letting go Holding nothing against anyone Listening carefully without condemnation Smiling with genuine warmth towards others There is sacredness in everything and everyone Returning to childhood wonder New realization that Joy comes from Love Patiently letting others open their gifts Connecting hearts with compassion and concern Giving to those less fortunate Becoming quiet to listen to God speaking Believing and looking for the kindness all around us Knowing that God is always among us and with us In my weakness something powerful happens - peace and love and joy Letting go of my way and learning Your Way Letting the castle of my ego become a humble stable of ego Welcoming everyone to the table Forgetting me and discovering you Focusing on children with open hearts and minds Paying attention to everyone and everything Total attentiveness to those around us Shutting off electronic devices and paying close attention to others Gratitude for the kindness and generosity of others Giving without expectations of affirmation Jumping with joy with the children's excitement Treasuring long lasting friendships Embracing the love and beauty in each moment Letting go of judgmental attitudes to bring peace to all men and women of good will ---------- Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and psychologist with a private practice in Troy. He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center, a consultant for the Detroit Medical Center, and Henry Ford Medical Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Southeastern Michigan. His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday. He can be reached at 248-362-3340. His e-mail address is: and his website is Published: Tue, Dec 24, 2013