When is the last time you experienced another person treating you with love and kindness?  What did you feel inside?  I am always deeply impressed when someone treats me in a loving and caring manner.  It makes feel so loved and appreciated.  Now if I feel loved and appreciated when someone is caring and kind toward me, then other people must feel the same way when I am kind and loving toward them.  Love is always a win-win experience.  Someone is kind to me.  I am then inspired to be kind toward that person.  Love is in the air.  This is a simple truth about life.  Love brings out more love.  Kindness brings out more kindness.  Positive words given to another person helps that person treat me with positive words and actions.  In these next two and a half weeks before Christmas we can easily experience kindness coming toward us from many different people. And we can experience our own self treating other people with more love and kindness.

This is such a simple concept but it’s simplicity can stop us from believing in it or practicing it because it is so easy and is right in front of us at every moment of our lives Try going through a day affirming everyone you meet.  It will change you and bring a gentle light to everyone who happens to enter into your presence this day.

Loving and non-judgmental people create so many positive feelings in people. When we show love and kindness toward another person, we help that person discover their better self and we help our own self to find our better self. The kindness of Love opens the door for others to become more loving and kinder.  It is so simple but it really works.

I am always amazed when I can observe and experience these gentle acts of love.  And gentle acts of Love are all around us every day of our life.  I just need to pay  attention to them when I see them because that is where I have an  experience of a loving God. Wherever there is Love,  there God is present.

It is so amazing when I can realize the power and peace of love. This awareness of Love  changes me into a better person and it helps change other persons into more loving  persons. It also helps everyone understand how very simple life can be and how love disarms ourself and disarms others from anger, misery and sadness.

It can be so easy to minimize the power of Love.  But when I stop minimizing this amazing principle of life, then I discover the joy and wisdom of being kind and loving toward everyone.

Joy in life will be the result of showing love and kindness toward everyone.  I must never forget this.  It becomes such a joyful and uplifting focus in living life in a happy manner.  I do not have to be in the presence of someone to bring Love to that person.  I simply need to send loving thoughts and feelings to that person and because of this I become a more loving and caring person and we both then become more loving and kinder.  What a blessed journey to be loving and kind to everyone.  

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Fred Cavaiani is a licensed marriage & family therapist and limited licensed psychologist with a private practice in Troy.  He is the founder of Marriage Growth Center. He conducts numerous programs for groups throughout Michigan. Cavaiani is associate editor and contributing writer for Human Development Magazine.  His column in the Legal News runs every other Tuesday.  He can be reached at 248-362-3340.  His e-mail address is: Fredcavi@yahoo.com and his website is FredsCounselorsCorner.com.